Below is a hypothetical example of how to work your way through the process of creating a memorial.
The family of Ethel Brown wished to create a special memorial that was personal to her, and reflected elements of her life that would bring back special memories when the grave was visited.
Ethel spent a lot of her time in her garden where she got immense pleasure from tending and nurturing her flowers, her favourite being a rose, and in particular, pink ones.
Because she spent so much time in the garden, a Robin had become accustomed to her movements and so was always in the vicinity on the off chance food would be unearthed.
With all the above taken into account, the methodology of creating this memorial by the family was as follows.